Death Of Your Children
If you are having to face the difficult challenge of dealing with the death of your children, or child, do not feel alone.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of parents who are forced to deal with this tragedy.
An important thing to remember is that it is in no way, shape, or form, your fault.
As a parent, it is easy to think that your child’s passing is to be blamed on you, for you were their protector, their rock, and shelter, but there is nothing you could have done to prevent it.
When it is their time, it is their time as sad as that might be.
You have to deal with the loss in your own fashion and manner, if you want to leave all of their personal belongings exactly how they were left, that is okay.
If you want to pack everything away and bury them along with your child, that is perfectly normal as well.
It is a good thing to understand that when you lose someone, there is no proper way to grieve, even if a hundred doctors and books tell you differently.
You cannot let the voice of others push you into not letting go of your child on your own time, they are not the one who is having to live with the loss, you are.
If you want to continue to celebrate birthdays, or buy extra Christmas gifts for them, that is perfectly okay as well.
But, it is also just as important to understand that your child loved you just as much as you loved them and they would not want to see you miserable because of their absence, they would want you to embrace the inner child, the inner light inside of your self and continue to live a normal, healthy, and happy life for them as well as yourself.
At times of heart ache it is possible to become blinded by death, but it is important to remember that you have to live two lives now, one for the living and one for the departed.
In the beginning, you might find that it is hard to separate one from the other, but as time passes on, you will find your own personal balance between what was and what remains.
Reaching out to other parents that have lost children themselves, is a great way to hear other ideas and coping techniques that you might not have thought about on your own.
Going to a therapist who specializes in the loss of a child is also very important during the beginning stages of continuing on with this process, they will be able to give you advice, a shoulder to lean on, and be a huge push in the right direction if you begin to feel lost.
Dealing with the loss of a child is something that will never fully fade away from your heart, but you would not want it to.
This is not going to be an easy road, but it will be one that you will survive, with the help and guidance of others, there will come the day when you find yourself smiling once again, not just for you, but for the life that once was and is no more.