Death Of Your Parents
If you have recently gone through the death of a parent, this is a really hard time for you and yes, that is completely normal.
It does not matter if you are nine years old or twenty-nine, losing a parent is never an easy task and it takes a very long time to recover, but you can do it, here are some tips to get you through the first year.
It is important to understand that this is not going to be an over night process, this is an every day battle for a long while.
Keep up with a daily routine, this is important to not pick up any bad habits and keep your mind busy, make sure that your schedule is packed full of things to do, fun, creative, work, whatever you need to do to ensure that your mind does not have free time to wonder while you adjust to this new path of your life.
Go talk to groups that deal with other people who are going through the same thing as you, sometimes it is a nice feeling to just know that you are not completely alone.
I know that sometimes it is easy in the face of tragedy to forget that other people in the world are facing the exact same struggle as you, just remember.. you are not alone.
Go to a individual therapist, this is a great way to talk about every single thing that is bothering you about the loss of your parent that you might not be able to talk openly about in front of a large group of strangers.
Just do not forget this part, it is not a good idea to keep things built up inside of you, no you are not weak for having feelings, you are completely human and that is okay.
It is okay to cry, a lot of people tend to forget this as they venture into their elder years, but death of any kind is never an easy thing to deal with and it is perfectly normal to express emotion through this trouble some time in your life, do not let anyone make you feel like it is not okay to do so.
It does get better, I know that right now, it may seem like it will never get better, but the pain will lessen with every single day that you wake up and begin to live your life for more than just yourself now.
Losing a parent can be one of the hardest losses you will ever face, think about it like this, your parents lived without you before, but up until now, you never had to live without them and that can be a very life altering adjustment to make.
The best thing you can do is take it day by day, slowly allow the wounds to heal and do not let anyone ever make you feel like you are moving on too fast or too slow, you have to deal with this on a pace that you are one hundred percent comfortable with, because with great love, comes great pain.