The Funeral Service
If someone you knew has just passed away, one of the main things that you are going to experience through this grief process, is the funeral.
For those of you who have never before encountered this service, it can be very overwhelming when you do not know what to expect.
Depending on who the person was to you in life, will determine when you show up to the funeral itself.
If the person was a very close family member, you will be at the funeral home for roughly twelve hours or more depending on religious views and large groups.
If the person who passed away was not family, you typically only stay for around fifth-teen to twenty minutes.
The whole purpose of a funeral is to give the family of the departed a fair chance to say their final ‘I love you’s’ and ‘goodbye’s’.
It will be packed with people, some you know, some you never have seen before.
Most people will be extremely disordered with their emotions and others might even begin to tell a joke or two, in an attempt to comfort the ones who are grieving the roughest.
Everyone who is at the funeral will more than likely be dressed in all black, formal clothes, unless otherwise directed by the family.
In some cases, the family will ask the guest to wear the departed’s favorite color or their favorite sports team clothing.
This part really just depends on the mindset of the ones who knew the deceased the best.
There is never a way to tell if the funeral will be open or closed casket, unless you are involved in the planning of the funeral.
If you are unsure of what to expect during this part of the viewing, it is best to prepare yourself for an open casket, those are the hardest.
The person who you knew here on Earth, sometimes does not look exactly the same as they did the last time you saw them in the flesh.
They will be cold to the touch and extremely stiff in their body position.
Sometimes they look bloated and others, they look skinnier than they did when they were alive.
Either way, seeing someone you knew inside of a casket, is never an easy task to bare.
Some people will faint when they see the body, some try to get inside of the casket with the deceased, some cry and some do nothing at all.
Death is a very hard time, yes, it happens every single day, but no matter how many people you lose in this life, it never gets any easier.
The funerals are always hard, and it is important to remember that every single person on Earth reacts differently to death.
It is okay to laugh, to cry, to tell stories, and to be numb.
Nothing is wrong with you, that is just how you process death.
When it comes to being prepared for the funeral, it is good to keep in mind that every funeral will be different depending on the family views and their religious preference, it is best to just go with the flow.
Remember, this is a form of remembrance and honor to the departed and their family, always be respectful when you are at a funeral.